I consider myself a feminist. I’m a big proponent of women
going to college and building their own careers (and I’d like to see more female scientists). I’m very big on a balance between our relationships and the rest
of our lives; you should not be made or broken by whether you’re single or dating or married. I think society concentrates
far too much on our looks, too little on our minds. I’m a huge advocate of expecting
and demanding respect from others, particularly from romantic interests. I
believe empowered women include women who value themselves, and expect their
partners to value them as well. Cruelty, indifference, derision, dishonesty—I hate
seeing people tolerate poor treatment, especially due to a fear of being single.
I also hate victim-blaming. I’m grateful my boyfriend, brothers, and guy friends
understand that the standard is not “it’s okay as long as she doesn’t say ‘no'” but rather “it’s not okay unless she says ‘yes.'” I’d love for a lot more people to understand this.
gone before me, who helped create the opportunities I enjoy today. I’m proud of
and inspired by the women who fought for my ability to vote, get an education, own property, access birth control, serve in the military, hold political office, stand up to sexual harassment, graduate from college, and on and on. I feel grateful to
modern role models who speak out against ridiculous body expectations, or
sexual expectations, or what have you.
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consider myself a feminist and my heart and mind go out to fellow
in many respects. I’m glad to be a part of our movement toward equality,
making the world better for my daughters. I feel a kinship with the
men and women who also work toward that goal.
shoved right out of the feminist movement and into an ill-fitting stereotype.
Apparently pro-life women hate sex and (simultaneously, somehow) think women have a duty to
procreate. Apparently, because I’m pro-life I don’t believe our gender can or should make our own decisions. Supposedly I don’t
think women should have their own educations, careers, or lives outside of the kitchen (or
the bedroom). I’m told I don’t even care if women die. I’m told, in fact, that I hate women, including
myself. All of the gender
issues I care about so deeply are a farce, smoke and mirrors to hide my
backward, misogynistic, sinister agenda of reducing my gender to a bunch of
In reality, I’m
pro-life because I believe the non-defensive
killing of other human beings is wrong. How sad that this perspective is enough to destroy my credibility as a feminist.
truth is I think women should have control over their bodies, and that
their sexual decisions should be their own. I think consenting adults
should be free to have sex with whomever. I’m glad we live in a society
in which birth control is legal and common, and I’d like to see better
sex education so more people will use birth control effectively. I
really dislike the double standards society has regarding men and
women’s sex lives. (For example, the phrase “man-whore” irritates me
because it seems to imply that normally women are “whores,” so in
this case we have to clarify.) I can’t stand the “slut vs. prude”
dichotomy, as if women can only be one or the other, and we sure can’t
win either way.
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I also don’t believe anyone has a duty to procreate, and I would love it if no one got pregnant who didn’t want to be pregnant.
do believe, though, that once a woman is pregnant, things have changed.
I see a huge moral difference between preventing a pregnancy and
terminating one, because I recognize the human fetus as part of our
species, warranting protection.
don’t take this position lightly. I understand how dramatically
pregnancy, childbirth, and child-rearing alter women’s lives. Indeed I
think part of feminism is transforming society so that procreation
doesn’t affect women so disproportionately.
We need better maternity leave and childcare options. We need to break
down stigmas surrounding single, student, and working mothers. I’d love
to live in a society where employers understand that supporting their
pregnant and parenting employees means supporting productive citizens
and healthy families. If our society had better support for pregnancy
and child-rearing, I believe less women would feel compelled to choose
abortion in the first place.
in any case, I reject the idea that only when women are able to
have their offspring killed can we have the same opportunities as men.
If that’s equality, it’s an abysmal form.
I consider myself a feminist, and I’m pro-life. I know I’m not the only one.