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- Having a child would interfere with the woman’s education, work, or ability to care for dependents;
- The woman cannot afford a baby; and/or
- The woman is having relationship problems/does not want to be a single mother.
Birthparents in open adoptions typically demonstrate positive self-esteem related to responsible decision making and feeling in control of their life — making a plan for the baby, instead of abandoning him/her. Birthparents with open adoptions work through the normal feelings of grief much more quickly and easily.
While open adoption does not solve all the problems of unplanned pregnancy, it is a type of family structure that may make it more plausible for a woman to give life without wreaking havoc on her own.
As a birthmother, I strongly advocate for open adoption. IAC offers some great information! I'd also suggest checking out http://www.AdoptionCouncil.org for information regarding adoption and foster care.
I love that pro-lifers are learning more about adoption and spreading the message. But I do hope that we don't start to play down the difficulty of adoption – doing so could make prospective birthparents uneasy as they know it's intellectually dishonest to assert otherwise.
Amanda, would you be interested in writing a guest blog post about your experiences with adoption?
While I am generally in favor of open adoptions, I think there are some cases where it causes trauma to all involved. So I think this is something that should be determined on a case-by-case basis.