We Asked, You Answered: Have you ever felt out of place for being pro-life?
Secular Pro-Life often focuses on the non-traditional pro-lifer. This person is most often in predominantly pro-choice circles and faces challenges in speaking up against abortion. In today’s “We Asked, You Answered,” SPL posted on social media:
Have you ever felt out of place for being pro-life?
As it turns out, many have. Some shared isolating moments on campus, hard disagreements with friends and family, or awkward moments in everyday life. Some of their testimonies are shared below.
You can also watch the replay of our most recent livestream, “Being Pro-Life in Pro-Choice Circles: Navigating conflict and isolation when your convictions can cost you community.” During this discussion between SPL’s Herb Geraghty and Michelle Buenrostro, they offer strategies for how to stand firm in your beliefs without sacrificing your values—or your relationships.
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Here are some of the shared testimonies about feeling out of place for being pro-life:
Mandalynns23: In college. But honey badger don’t care! Abortion was probably the only thing I was outspoken about when disagreements came up. Anything else I felt arguments were largely a matter of opinion but abortion wasn’t and I had the facts to back it up.
Morgan Witmer: I never feel out of place. I have, however, felt outnumbered at times.
If possible, I like to have a conversation. This way I can share all that I know as I hear the pro-choice perspectives. It is helpful to be one on one where you can calmly listen and speak.
DL Beard: I feel that every time I get on Facebook.
mrs_taylor_cool: In a women in politics and public policy class in college. We had to write a paper about abortion rights being a necessity for women’s equality. It killed me inside – I was in a room with 30 women and heard so many say any woman like me had to be brainwashed to disagree with the pro choice argument.
youmeanthatguy: I don’t always bring it up. Not because I’m ashamed to but because I think it’s important to find my moment. It seems like everyone is against the idea but anyone can be receptive to you being pro-life if you pick your moment. And from there…you can have more real convos.
Andrew Eager: All the freaking time.
Lada Maria Otedo: I felt scared to share with people my true thoughts. Until my friend was coerced into getting an abortion she didn’t want and regrets. Then I became a lot louder about my opinion, because maybe if I had been louder about it before, maybe she wouldn’t have this weight on her shoulders.
Gabriela Aurora Ámbar Statt Ostojic: Yes, definitely. And being a pro-life leftist has caused me to be isolated from both liberal and conservative pro-life circles.
Emily Marie Kirby: My whole life I have felt out of place, I’m autistic and really fit in no where, so being pro life really doesn’t affect me much in that area. I could give two rat tails what people think of me and my views.
Lee Brandon: The level of apathy & dismissal I get from my Irish “raised Catholic” family & friends over the issue, especially during the 2018 referendum in Ireland, was & is heartbreaking.
uvacharta.jewishprolife: You’re not alone. A lot of us have felt like that missing puzzle piece, convicted in our values, yet out of place in the spaces we once called home. But being pro-life is not about fitting in. It’s about standing firm in compassion, science, and human dignity, even when it’s hard. Stay grounded. Keep showing up. Your voice matters.
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